1) This is just a task reflection to others, but to me, it is an opportunity to share my life journey because everybody has one.
Sometimes, I believe silence is the best reply to a fool. It is not an insult, it is just a way to stay out of trouble and protect your peace.
I remember when I was still attending my crypto trading academy and how much I suffered just to learn how to read charts, especially during dictation week. That is when you have to come out in front of the class to analyze a trade live while everyone watches and waits. If things end up going down when you instructed everyone to go up, you automatically become the joke of the week.
My tribe is Hausa, one of the biggest tribes in Africa. Because my tribe does not naturally adopt English as a first language, some of my Nigerian brothers from other tribes would call us (aboki). That word is not just a word, it is a wound.
The week I was picked to give a signal, things ended up going badly. The next word that came out of my mentor's mouth was aboki. It really felt like a stab that day. Because of how straightforward I am by nature, I immediately stood up and corrected him.
That decision ended badly for me.
He sent me out of the academy, warned me never to return, and even instructed the security guards that if they ever saw me at the gate again, they should turn me away immediately.
Life is really deep sometimes.
2) This question took me straight back to 2023 when I landed my first virtual assistant job as an email manager. Scheduling calendars on Calendly, cleaning up his inbox, and making sure he was always updated so he can have time for himself and his little sick daughter. That was my responsibility every day.
But from early on, there was something clearly off about this client, anger issues.
And not the mild kind.
This man could cancel jobs worth thousands of dollars simply because someone else upset him on a different matter entirely. Sometimes he would disappear for almost a week without paying my salary, and I would just have to wait without knowing what was happening.
But now, sitting back and remembering everything clearly, I understand exactly why I stayed through all of it.
Because despite the anger, this man had one of the kindest hearts I have ever witnessed.
He always made sure I ate.
He sent me airtime without me asking.
He gave me bonuses on top of my salary regularly.
And most importantly, he was the one who sponsored my younger sister's education.
So yes, he battled with serious anger issues.
But if kindness were actually a human being walking this earth, he would be its closest replica without a doubt.
3) Revenge if you can, or go off silently.
Because honestly, the patient dog does not eat the fattest bone anymore like they always said. I have been investing my patience for years, waiting for you to change, and you still have not moved an inch?
Walking away should be my next decision.
And here is exactly why I say that.
I have been staying with my uncle since I was just 14 years old. I am now 24.
I know everything this man put me through across those years in different ways and through different situations.
Insulting my parents and talking down on my future was just a normal thing for him. I even remember the night he made me sleep outside his house simply because I tried to have a conversation with him about how unfair his treatment was toward me as his younger brother's son.
Instead of listening, he pushed me straight out of the door.
Fast forward to 2024, when I made some money from crypto and finally decided to rent my own apartment so I could focus on building my own life in peace.
This same man came to me saying he could not pay his rent because of the harsh economy and had no idea where he was going to take his family.
Being the kind of person I am, I opened up about my apartment and told him he could move in with me since it was a two bedroom. To cut it short. That was my biggest mistake ever in my life.