I remember a moderator I knew in a project, Nikolay, a Brazilian guy. He was so friendly yet still authoritative. He had such good control of the chat. I learnt a lot from him
When I started managing communities, I had that same sense of authority, but I gradually lost it, unfortunately, because I was trying to do too much. I always wanted to reply to everything and didn't implement the silence strategy
To be honest, I only get that authoritative sense currently when I chat in the Syndicate, Carry, and Robin Market group chats.